9Destroy, O Lord, and divide their tongues: for I have seen violence and strife in the city.
10Day and night they go about it upon the walls thereof: mischief also and sorrow are in the midst of it.
11Wickedness is in the midst thereof: deceit and guile depart not from her streets.
12For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him:
13But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance.
14We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company.
15Let death seize upon them, and let them go down quick into hell: for wickedness is in their dwellings, and among them.
Death of a Friendship
What is David's real problem? Surely wickedness was not a new thing for David; he was old enough to have seen much wickedness in his land. Why, then, is he so adamant that the Lord destroy the workers of sin and wickedness?
For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance.
It is always difficult to deal with our enemies, but what do we do when one of our best friends becomes our greatest enemy? Here is someone who knows everything about us; we shared our deepest secrets and our greatest ambitions. And, we thought that this person was a fellow believer.
We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company.
It is true that those who are closest to us--the ones we love the most, are the ones who can hurt us the most. What are we to do when we experience the death of a friendship--when our closest friend turns against us? Our first reaction is probably very similar to David's reaction.
Let death seize upon them, and let them go down quick into hell.
There is no easy way to go through times such as these, but there are certainly some hard lessons that we can learn from the experience. No matter how close we become to anyone on this earth, it is so important that we remember that no one should be closer to us than the Lord. Our love for God should triumph over any experience we have on this earth. Friends will fail us, maybe even to the point of their becoming our greatest enemy, but God will never fail.
I cannot help but believe, that at some point David rethought his emotions and quick hatred of what his friend was doing to him. If we truly love our friends, then we should be greatly alarmed at their separation from God. We are told to pray for our enemies and those who despitefully use us. This is never more necessary than when that enemy is a former friend. It is certainly true that our former friends need our prayers more than ever.
Most of us, at some point or other, have experienced, or will experience the death of a friendship. There are no easy answers, and no easy solution to the difficulties we experience at that time. As in all things, our hope is that we would find the Lord our all-sufficient Friend who will never leave nor forsake us.
God Bless You,